Wait a few seconds

Waiting is one of the hardest things to do, I think. My worst enemy (and I feel so many of us riders can relate to each other!) is cantering down an entire long side and waiting for that jump. In my case, it was my last lesson I took, and I surprised myself by actually managing to be patient and wait for the “bounce” poles, keep a good pace, and finish positively. It was actually a fantastic lesson. I really needed it.

But today, I am not going to talk about the lesson. I want to talk about a similar waiting game, and that’s waiting a few more seconds to turn left at an uncontrolled intersection when you’re driving – especially if you see a motorcycle as part of oncoming traffic.

Track day with the track bike

As some of you may have seen on my Instagram, just a little over a month ago in the first week of October, my sister was killed in an accident because someone didn’t wait to turn left. She was riding her motorcycle with the flow of traffic on her way to meet a friend for a ride, and was only two blocks away from their meet-up point. The cars the person darted in front of could swerve and stop. She could not. This is why you see many riders lay down their bikes because it’s their best bet to be as safe as possible to mitigate an accident. Unfortunately, in my sister’s case, the person turned so close to oncoming traffic that she didn’t have time to do so. She tried, but… well. I don’t think we’d be here if she succeeded.

Left turns at uncontrolled intersections are apparently the major cause of motorcycle fatalities, something I had no idea happens as often as it does until this became my family’s reality. I’ve always tried to be conscious of motorcycles while driving once I knew my sister did so, but this introduced something I’d never known before. Now, I take extra precautions when turning left at an uncontrolled intersection.

So, to whoever this reaches, whether you ride, know someone who rides, or don’t ride at all, please just wait a few extra seconds when you are turning left at an uncontrolled intersection. If you see a motorcycle in oncoming traffic, please please please wait those extra seconds. One small decision to wait could mean someone’s life. The ricochet this has caused, not just for my family but for everyone who knew my sister, is extremely overwhelming. It’s lists upon lists of things we should’ve never had to do, and always the small, little things that constantly nick and poke and expose the fact that she’s not here anymore.

These two adored each other

These holidays, hold your loved ones close. You really don’t know when might be the last time you’re able to do so. 

Again, please beware of motorcyclists as the weather is nice for them to get out and ride – especially in the west coast. There are always stupid drivers who aren’t aware of riders, as I’ve witnessed many times, and it always makes my heart race whenever I see it. Through this I now know so many bikers, and I worry about them now as well, and hope they’re as safe as they can be whenever they ride.

There really aren’t any proper words, anything I can really say to encompass who my sister was – there just aren’t enough words, and even if there were, they’d never do her justice. So, this post is dedicated to my sister.

She loved this little dog so much
She even loved my little girl, and appreciated her cheekiness ❤
We often twinned without meaning to, even down to the dachshunds ❤

14 Comments on “Wait a few seconds

  1. Still reeling that you lost your sister in this pointless way. So sorry and hugs to you all still. A beautiful tribute to a beautful person. I hate the way people drive here in Memphis. I watched no less than three cars run a red light after I had stopped on the yellow, yesterday. Luckily no motorcyles were crossing at the time. Why is everyone in such a damn hurry. UGH. again hugs to you all. What a waste of a lovely life. 😦 I dont even know how to tell you how this affected me when I saw your post when it happened. I lost a loved one years ago to a stupid traffic accident as well (Not a motorcycle but still) so feel free to reach out if you ever want to talk!!!

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    • Thank you so much ❤ Drivers are horrible here – I really hate it. I am so so sorry that happened to you too, Michelle ❤ I will probably take you up on that and reach out. It's been hard.


  2. Oh my goodness, I am so sorry ❤ What an awful tragedy. I'm going to share this with a couple of friends that just got their motorcycle licenses in her memory. Thank you for sharing, even as hard as this must have been to write.

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    • Thank you ❤ Yes, please tell them! I hadn't known about it until now, and talking to her motorcycle friends about how all of them start preparing when they see someone waiting to turn left. I hope your friends stay safe ❤


  3. I am so sorry for your loss as well as her friends and rest of the family. She was a beautiful woman. What a senseless loss.

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  4. I am so, so sorry 😦 My husband is a motorcyclist so I understand all the feelings and fears. I wish it was compulsory in this country to have a motorcycle license before getting your car license, it would give everyone on the road a lot more empathy for those around them.

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    • Thank you ❤ I'm glad he's been safe, but yes, it doesn't negate the worry whenever they go out. I completely agree with you – I think it should be compulsory to have a motorcycle license. People just aren't aware of them in my opinion, and I think it'd be easier if they understood the risks.


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